How Long Do you Want to do this?

When you’re going through something hard the tear to go back is always a very present temptation. An abusive relationship, an unhealthy friendship, a version of you that needs to no longer exist, whatever it is for you, there can inevitably be times where you just think it would be easier to go back. And the reality is often you can.

Someone recently asked me for advice how to get over someone without closure. I thought back on my own experience leaving a situation that I never thought I would get out of & realized there was one thought that I really clung to.

You only have to get through it as many times as you make yourself.

If you go back, you’ll have to go through this again someday, but if you hold on and make it through you won’t ever have to get through it again. Making it to the other side will be hard, but it will get you out.

It takes strength to leave.

Strength to make that initial decision. Strength to continue to make that decision every day.

But I promise you getting to the other side is so worth it. It doesn’t stay that heavy forever.

Sometimes I feel really humbled at how much mercy God had in the timeline He used to get me out. I know the statistics and patterns. I know that most people who go through what I did don’t get out in the number of times I did. I don’t take any credit for that - I recognize it was God’s strength and mercy completely, but I will say one thing I clung to was that hope that I only had to go through what I was going through as many times as I made myself.